What All New Naturals NEED to Know
Going natural is probably one of the hardest and most freeing experiences a woman can do for herself. The initial insecurity and uncertainty are all apart of the process that will leave most feeling dazed on what to do next. However with your natural hair care genie at your side you’ll have real hair care advice from a real natural. As a newborn natural you’ll find that there’s a lot of information out there but finding what you NEED to know in the beginning in one place can be troubling. Save yourself the trouble of trial and error and learn what I wish someone would’ve told me from the beginning.
Your Hair Is Just That, YOUR Hair
You’ll probably be wanting to hit up every hair care blog and youtube channel on the web which is all the more enlightening and is very necessary but becoming engulfed in another natural’s journey can be damaging. My post big chop hair style was a bantu knot out, it turned out beautifully looking back on it now but then I was secretly freaking out. I thought “Am I really going to leave the house looking like this?” Looking at my true texture boldly staring back at me in the mirror was overwhelming. I have always had thick hair so my mother had me in relaxers by the time I learned how to tie my shoes. I had gotten use to the fantasy of my “straight hair” and completely broke away from my natural hair roots. I forgot what it was like to be kinky and most importantly that it was okay. I began to look to the web for other bantu knot styles and began to identify with the ones that turned out the best. I mimicked they’re technique, hair care products, and hair regimen and found that most of the time my natural hair didn’t look like theirs. Was it even suppose to? Of course not, I am me and they are them, we share the same journey and that Is all.
I had gotten use to the fantasy of my “straight hair” and completely broke away from my natural hair roots. I forgot what it was like to be kinky and most importantly that it was okay
Get Used to Putting In A Lot Of Work
Everything that needs to be done in preparation for the correct way to take care of and handle your hair is yet to be learned. For example all that I had ever known was centralised around my processed hair. I needed to make up for absolute years of getting the bare minimum of moisture if my hair could speak it would’ve slapped me and yelled “I’m thirsty and I been thirsty woman!” Your hair will need constant attention especially if you were a life long relaxer wearer like I was. It will be challenging to moisturise everyday but once you’re in the swing of things the amount of work you put in will just seem natural. While your hair may seem like it’s fighting you back and that twist out didn’t twist out correctly don’t put too much strain on your hair. The putting in of “work” really means moisture. Note how your hair responds to the level of product in your hair and you’ll soon know the prefect level that will keep your curls happy.
Don’t put too much strain on your hair. The putting in of “work” really means moisture
Get to Know Your Hair
Getting to know your hair is so essential, at first it’s natural to feel like a stranger to the new you. Get to know what your hair texture needs, what It truly needs. The worst thing that a newborn natural could ever do is to put her hair in a newly yielded categoric box and ignore their instincts. If your curls look sad but the woman on youtube said that it happens and it’s okay then one of you has to be wrong. In the beginning it is an absolute must that you familiarise yourself with your hair at it’s healthiest and at it’s daunting stages so that you can recognise when something’s up and begin to retain length. Call me crazy but I let my hair go without moisture for a few days just to see both ends of those spectrums. Once you get to know the ins and outs of your hair a hair care regimen will naturally occur and beautifully luscious and more obedient hair will follow.
The worst thing that a newborn natural could ever do is to put her hair in a categoric box and ignore their instincts
Water Water and More Water
Water is the most moisturising substance for kinky hair on the planet but because it evaporates so quickly it needs to be sealed in by using a moisturising cream over it or else your hair will just become dry all over again. Try an experiment for yourself just so you can truly see how big of a difference adding water to your regimen makes. Apply products without first applying water one day and then the next day apply them with water and the results will be visible. Not only will it improve moisture retention but it will also reduce the risk of tangles which can be detrimental. Getting tangles can lead to knots forming near your ends and ultimately halting length retention. Your hair should never be combed while dry for detangling purposes! Water is all powerful in weighing down those tight curls and giving them the moisture they need so before you apply any creams or oils spray it baby!
Not only will it improve moisture retention but it will also reduce the risk of tangles.
Experimenting With Products Is Necessary
There are so many natural hair care products on the market that claim many things and will do so but for different heads. Your hair is unique to you due to heritage, diet and many other factors. From one natural to another you will find some products that are absolutely terrible for your hair. You just have to get back on the horse and do your research. Look at the products that do agree with your hair and notice the ingredients and apply that to your product searches. Some will be ridiculously cheap and some very expensive but ultimately price based on value isn’t really plausible in this arena. I’ve found 4 dollar creams that gave me some of the best twist outs I’ve ever had. Trial and error are the name of the game and if it doesn’t work then throw it out of your regimen and move on.
Price based on value isn’t really plausible in this arena.
Expect People To Be People
This natural hair movement is a strong one and hopefully one day it will be accepted as the new norm for black women in society. However not everyone is on the bandwagon and many people won’t agree with it no matter what facts you throw at them. One of the initial comments I had from a family member was “when was I going to relax my hair again?” I almost choked on my gum with laughter at the fact of rocking my natural curls was unnatural to her. Not everyone is going to think it “looks good” but as long as you think it does then it does! Remember there is an entire community out there supporting and doing exactly what you’re doing. This liberating decision you’re making isn’t for anyone else it’s for yourself. With some it’ll be a generational thing and others it will be sheer jealousy, no matter the jabs and snide comments your natural hair is beautiful and is not NAPPY.
Understanding Your Kinky Hair As A Whole
I thought something was wrong with my hair for the longest. No matter what I did to it or how many days straight I’d moisturise it, it remained feeling dry. You have to look back on the relaxer days where you had to grease your scalp and your hair would look slicked down and stiff. I dare you to try and grease your scalp with natural hair and assume that the same will happen. It boils down to the very strand of your hair, that “I just got my hair greased slick em’ down” look was due to the product being able to completely coat your hair strand because it was straight. However due to the kinky, curly, or zig zagging shape of your hair strand getting a product to completely coat your hair will be a lot trickier. Using water will weigh down those curls forcing them to loosen up and take to the products you’re using. Really paying attention to your ends is a must as well. They are after all the oldest parts of your hair and will be the hardest to keep moisturised. They’re the first part of your hair that your hands and clothing touch so they have it the roughest. Also your curly hair is naturally prone to dryness and frizziness but both of those things can be handled with proper use of product and care.
Once you embrace all of these factors your attitude will change towards your hair for the better. I always say that once you’ve had your first bad twist out and you can still doctor up your hair and leave the house with sheer confidence you’ve truly transitioned. I hope I’m not the first but if I am, I would like to welcome you to the natural hair journey!